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Sex

Love the One You’re With (You, Babe)

Q. I have a rather boring question: I’m a 20-something virgin who wants to take the plunge and get herself a vibrator but I have no clue what to look out for. Any tips to help there be some rain in this desert?

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Sex

Why Be Normal When You Can Be Happy?

Q. I’m fourteen and masturbate very frequently — especially when it’s close to my period. And sometimes during (I read that it can relieve cramps… it works). However I’m not sure if this is normal. Can you tell me if this unusual or unhealthy?

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Perspectives

My Vulgar Peculiarities: How I Came to Love My Vibrator

The first time I saw Madonna’s “Justify My Love” music video, I was only about 6 or 7 years old. It was playing on a late night music video show on MTV, and because I always had minimal supervision, I saw the whole music video without interruption, or fear of my parents finding out. I […]

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Sex

Mark Twain Knew Best: How to Be in the Moment

Q. How does someone who is accomplished at giving themselves orgasms do it with a partner? Like not let their mind wander off and think of all the ways that they can do a better job of giving the orgasm, instead of focusing on what is happening at the moment? How can one enjoy someone […]

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Sex

We Vibe It: The Magic of the Magic Wand

My wife and I put Uncle Sam’s money to good use. Not only did we pay for our upcoming honeymoon to Portland, we finally bought a toy we had been coveting for a year or so. I had heard amazing reviews from my friends especially from a few trans friends about how awesome the Hitachi […]

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny (and Other Assorted F#@%ery)

I don’t know about you, but I’m exhausted from the ups and downs in the news this week. Wendy Davis is a big damn hero, but her efforts may be for nothing. SCOTUS’s decision on DOMA was a win for”¦ conservatives? My head is reeling. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.)

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Sex

All For One, One For Lube: What Lube To Use?

Q. What is the best silicone lube?

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Sex

Performance As Play: Masturbation With An Audience

Q. I have a goal: I would like to masturbate in front of my boyfriend. But whenever I try to, I end up chickening out because I get so nervous. My boyfriend, my considerate and patient lover, was the one to encourage me to masturbate in front of him so that he could form a better […]

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Sex

Age Ain’t Nothing But A Number: Sex At 60

Q. I have not had sex in 17 years and am about to turn 60. I am entering a great relationship though and am really worried about the possible pain since I have been a nun for so long. I used to have GREAT sex when younger and never any problems whatsoever. I have never […]

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Sex

Toys, Toys, Toys: We Want Toys

[NSFW pictures after the cut] Children, one of the best things about writing a sex column is the perks. I don’t mean to humblebrag, but I get to write about historical vibrators, squirting, anal and not anal, and sex toys. It’s a tough job, but somebody has to do it.

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Sex

Big O, Little O, Is That An O?

Q. I’m not sure if I have ever had an orgasm. Although I have had fantastic, mind blowing sex, I have never felt a “moment.” How can I increase the likelihood of orgasming and even squirting during sex? 

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Sex

D-I-Oh My: Creating Homemade Sex Toys

Q. Do you have any tips on homemade/ around the house sex toys (for masturbating and otherwise)? [Somewhat NSFW pictures after the cut]

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Sex

Your Questions, Redux: Sex On The Micro-Side

Greetings my lovelies! This week, I’m going to be doing things a touch bit different. Often times in my box of questions and queries, we get shorter, easier to answer questions that don’t always make it to the cut, on account of I can’t always wax poetic about the topic at large for more than […]

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Sex

Free Your Mind and the Rest Will Follow: On Orgasms

Q. I’m a straight woman in my early 30s in a long-term relationship with a great guy. We’ve had great, awesome, loving, and occasionally experimental sex. As for most women, the big Orgasm is sometimes a hard-fought battle of mental and physical will, but 90% of the time I get there. In the past month, I […]

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Persephone Birthday

Best of P-Mag: Porn ““ To X or Not to X

I love this piece because it asks questions about something that most of us have conflicted feelings on. I love pron! I hate money shots! Buck Angel is awesome! Buck Angel is a dick! Oooh, sex! OOOOOh, thats not sex! Nothing inspires a good, hearty conversation like the place of porn in our culture and […]