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Parenting

Their Favorite Mom

The other day my daughter shared some letters she had written to each member of her family, including one to her birth mother, who is dead, and one to me. The letter to me was heartfelt and said how much she loved me. The letter to her birth mother, which she wanted me to read, […]

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Parenting

You aren’t fated to be a bad parent just because yours were

Not all of us have had ideal parents, and sometimes long after we’re out of their sphere of influence, the damage they’ve done remains. I certainly fall into the category of someone who still is affected by what happened in her childhood, and the damage was enough that I worried that I’d do the same […]

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Dispatches from Ladyblogland

This Week in Lady Reads

In case you missed them, here’s what we were reading last week about a recently retracted study, Game of Thrones, and much more. Plus, NSFW pics of a Harry Potter actor that, let’s face it, you’ve probably seen by now, but it can’t hurt to look again, amirite?

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Dispatches from Ladyblogland

This Week in Lady Reads

Views you can use, science, and April Fool’s jokes done right. Fun stuff!

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Parenting

Thinking on My Feet

When I first discussed heaven with my adopted daughter, it was to help her handle the enormous losses she had suffered, first and foremost being the death of her mother. I didn’t think about the theological implications — I was providing answers that would help her sleep at night. At first she wanted very simple things […]

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Books

2 Books for The Anti-Sanctimommy

No one has to be told that parenting is rough sometimes, but what’s hard to remember is that every kid is different. Making it even more difficult are the parents who think they know so much better than everyone else, and make it their job to let the world know. Though some of us have […]

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Gift Guide

Gift Guide for Geek Kids

A decade or so ago, a kid would be crushed to be labeled a geek. Nowadays, some kids wear the term like a badge of honor. “Heck yeah I’m a geek! I like comic books and video games and science and tech stuff!” If you’ve got a geek kid in your life and you need […]

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Perspectives

Birth. Stories. Horror. Power.

Stories matter. They are one of the fundamental ways in which we learn. In pregnancy and childbirth, “horror stories” are to avoided. To be ignored. To be drowned out by the empowered. Why does empowerment need to come at the exclusion of a whole spectrum of knowledge?

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Ladyguides

Ladyguide: Surviving Kids and Winter Bugs

Winter is coming, Persephoneers. Winter is coming.

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Dispatches from Ladyblogland

Dispatches from Ladyblogland

From Miss America to Shonda Rhimes, ladyblogland has it all!

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Dispatches from Ladyblogland

Dispatches from Ladyblogland

Ladyblogland had some Manfeels about the Internet this week.

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny is Staging a Topless Protest

We’ve got lots of cool readings this week, ranging from confused MRAs who don’t understand cat-based satire to why Cosmo‘s sex positions for lesbians are ridiculous. But there’s a lot of bad news too, including Ray Rice’s two-fucking-game suspension, assaults at SDCC, and slut-shaming Nicki Minaj and the Bachelorette. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much […]

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Perspectives

Don’t Blame Your Kids; You’re Just a Crappy Friend

If you’ve been anywhere on social media in the last week or so, chances are you’ve seen this article making the rounds: “Once We Become Parents, We Don’t Want to Hang Out With You Anymore (But Not for the Reasons You Think).” It’s just the latest in a neverending series of sanctimonious screeds from a particular […]

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Perspectives

The Real Real Reason I Can’t Hang Out

I love my kids.  I love my kids a lot.  I love my kids so much that even though pregnancy was the worst time of my life, I decided to do it again so I could have another kid. When my older daughter took her first step, I felt like she had invented walking and […]

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Crossposts

What I’m Teaching My Daughter About Privilege

Recently, Time magazine published a piece titled “Why I’ll Never Apologize for My White Male Privilege” written by a student at Princeton. (Honestly, I’m baffled that they would even publish such trash but my increasing distrust of most major websites leads me to believe that it’s all about the clicks. They knew it would go […]