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Life

Losing the Little One

It’s a damp day: not cold, but clammy and fatigued. I walk in and see Laila sitting near the bar. She’s tense. Her shoulders are pulled up tight to her ears, and her hands are balled in her lap. I’m about to dig in to something intensely personal and painfully absent in her everyday life. (Trigger […]

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Perspectives

Dear Pregnant Friend

I have several pregnant/new mommy friends. I am not handling it well.

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Pets

Getting Ready for Baby

If your dog isn’t housebroken, don’t get pregnant. If your dog is protective, fearful, or neurotic, don’t have a baby. If your dog is not child-ready, don’t have a child in your home. In an ideal world, the things in the preceding paragraph would be considered logical and not insulting. However, life isn’t logical, and […]

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Bodies

The Pregnancy Promise

So someone you are close to is having a baby — what an exciting, joyous time. Well, I’m here to make it better, because I’m about to tell you the most important thing you can know, and it’s beautifully, elegantly simple. Don’t comment on the mom’s size or appearance, or the baby’s size. Ever. Not one […]

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Dispatches from Ladyblogland

This Week in Lady Reads

In case you missed them, here’s what we were reading last week about a recently retracted study, Game of Thrones, and much more. Plus, NSFW pics of a Harry Potter actor that, let’s face it, you’ve probably seen by now, but it can’t hurt to look again, amirite?

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny Will Not Break the Internet

Butts, y’all. And also some real news. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.)

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31 Days of Halloween

31 Days of Halloween — Day 20, Possessed Pregnancies

It’s not hard to understand how pregnancy can be a source of angst and dread. Even in wanted pregnancies, there are very real fears, from the healthy development of the fetus to the specter of maternal and/or fetal death. Women are bombarded with warnings, directions, and horror stories full of “what ifs” and “could happens.” […]

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny Is Not Down with Fracking for the Cure

“Awareness” has gone too far. TOO FAR. And there’s plenty of truly tragic news this week to go along with the shit that’s merely infuriating. But if you can make it through to the end, Jessica Williams will make it all better. (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.)

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny is Sick of Victim-Blaming

It’s been a banner week at the Washington Post; they’ve earned top billing this week for publishing George Will’s latest inanity (though the New York Post has equal blame for that one) and an article that used completely irrelevant data to victim-blame single moms who are abused. Good job, assholes. Let’s see who else is keeping them […]

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny: Listicles Before Testicles

There’s not too much news to report this week, though what little there is still manages to be rage-inducing. However, I have a ton of awesome recommended readings for you, from listicles about ridiculous sex advice and the ignorant things people ask trans* people to discussions about doxxing and victim-blaming. Let’s jump on in! (As usual, […]

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Health

Your Emergency Contraception Might Not Work. Here’s the Real Reason.

The European manufacturer of NorLevo, an emergency contraceptive pill that’s identical to many of the most popular morning-after pills sold in the US, announced that they’ll be changing their packaging to warn consumers that it may not work for some overweight and obese women. The FDA has announced that they’ll review the data and decide whether […]

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Life

Baby Fever, the Biological Clock, and Me

Being 30 is weird. I finally feel like an adult and that scares me. The last few months have shown me a whole new lease on my life. I have had an ever-increasing desire to have a child which, in turn, has caused all sorts of issues.  Am I ready to be a parent? Probably […]

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Health

Eczema and Pregnancy

Eczema sucks. It itches. It burns. It sets my entire body on a stressful edge. The most popular treatment by my dermatologist is to use steroid cream. When that didn’t work, she upped the level of steroids in the cream. But now I am pregnant. And steroids are a no-no. I have scratched my foot […]

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Health

Pregnancy Math: 20 Weeks by Whose Count?

Most of the recent abortion debate in the US has revolved around banning abortions after the 20th week. What many people (including lawmakers in at least one state) don’t realize is that there are two ways of dating a pregnancy – gestational age and embryonic age. Gestational age refers to the number of weeks the woman […]

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Health

The IVF Diaries: Baby Steps

Some of you may remember a post I wrote a few months ago about having Turner syndrome. (If not, it’s cool: I have a link!) In it, I spoke about having the condition, but somehow in my stream-of-consciousness writer ways it ended up having a bit of a focus on one aspect of Turner syndrome […]