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Sex

We Vibe It: Nexus, Jr and The Mistress

My sexuality and exploration of my awesome new body has continued to change over the course of my HRT. I have discovered a lot of new tricks to my new areas, and I have also found that certain things that I didn’t like before have become huge likes for me. It has been about a […]

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Sex

Would You 3D Print A Sex Toy?

Get ready, everyone, because the future of sexual pleasure is here. And it’s a doozy.

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This Week in Misogyny

This Week in Misogyny is Scarier than Your Halloween Costume

Y’all. It’s been a hell of a week. Of course we’re still dealing with GamerGate, plus the backlash to the street harassment video that everyone loved just a few days ago. And don’t forget the fucked up Halloween costumes that are already out there! (As usual, trigger warnings for pretty much everything apply.)

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Sex

All For One, One For Lube: What Lube To Use?

[Original publication date: June 5, 2013] Q. What is the best silicone lube?

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Sex

Sex On The Micro-Side: Your Questions, Redux

Q. If a solid latex dildo has been lubed or washed with the wrong product, and is now sticky, is there a way to neutralize the deterioration, or should we just get a new one?

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Sex

Love the One You’re With (You, Babe)

Q. I have a rather boring question: I’m a 20-something virgin who wants to take the plunge and get herself a vibrator but I have no clue what to look out for. Any tips to help there be some rain in this desert?

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Perspectives

My Vulgar Peculiarities: How I Came to Love My Vibrator

The first time I saw Madonna’s “Justify My Love” music video, I was only about 6 or 7 years old. It was playing on a late night music video show on MTV, and because I always had minimal supervision, I saw the whole music video without interruption, or fear of my parents finding out. I […]

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Sex

There Are No Clean Cut Answers: Needs, Fetishizing “Otherness,” and Communication

Q. My husband wants to have a threesome with a she-male or male ( a penis inside him and his in me). The situation has been pressing on and on for about a year. His birthday is coming up and he asked again. I’m scared partly of being with him and another man, and partly […]

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Sex

Sex On The Micro Side: Your Questions, Redux

One of the joys of writing a sex column is the amount of questions we get. Without continued questions, there is no column and no way to talk about experiences or problems we may or may not have experienced. In many ways, it’s a little bit like group therapy, and even though I’m on one […]

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Sex

Performance As Play: Masturbation With An Audience

Q. I have a goal: I would like to masturbate in front of my boyfriend. But whenever I try to, I end up chickening out because I get so nervous. My boyfriend, my considerate and patient lover, was the one to encourage me to masturbate in front of him so that he could form a better […]

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Sex

Ass And You Shall Receive: Anal Sex and Lubrication

Q. “I’ve always been all about preaching the joys of lubricant in anal sex. However… I have a partner I see maybe once a month, depending on if my work schedule takes me to his area. He’s fabulous. We aren’t romantic – I think we have different ideas about how to raise families or I’d venture […]

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Sex

D-I-Oh My: Creating Homemade Sex Toys

Q. Do you have any tips on homemade/ around the house sex toys (for masturbating and otherwise)? [Somewhat NSFW pictures after the cut]

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Sex

When The Going Gets Tough, The Tough Get Sexy

Q. My husband and I both have health issues going on that mean we’ve decided not to have sexual intercourse for the next few months. But now, apart from oral, we’re totally stuck as to how else we can enjoy sexy times. Do you have any suggestions for what else we can do?

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Sex

Anal Over Here, Anal Over There (Anal, Anal, Anal Everywhere)

Q. I’m a BBW, how can I fully enjoy and get into anal sex? I’m 47 and have never done this. [NSFW images after the cut]

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Books

Book Review: “The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot” by Violet Blue

“The G-spot is not a riddle wrapped in a mystery inside an enigma,” Violet Blue writes in her introduction. “It’s a real, tangible thing [“¦] But for some reason, lots of people seem to think the G-spot is a myth.” In response to the oft-heard misconceptions about this place inside a woman’s body, she decided […]